|Some Relationships Are Loitering & Willful Blocking|
As I see and understand Christ, some of the 'times' below are to be the effort and purpose of one's heart when working to AVOID relationships that ARE forbidden, while other 'times' are occurrences that happen despite God's love being revealed from Above in Yeshua Christ... for not all people yet submit to God in Christ.
Some 'times' have been confused, one for another.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.
- Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8If we look at our collective humanity, rather than separating our typically ignored oneness, reason would conclude that reconciliation should always be the rule, not the exception.
And this resolution should be the aim regardless if forgiveness was asked from the injuring party.
Yet forgiveness doesn't always mean a relationship is to continue.
Reconciliation in one's heart does not mean personal interaction also continues.
There is a time to let past relationships find their place only in the past, and never in the present or the future.
Objectively and in honesty, some relationships cannot be reconciled or continued... and should be avoided.
An ex-lover / romantic or intimate relationship, being a prime example, is a relationship that must be left to the past for reasons of fidelity and to avoid temptation.
Some people's pride, or emotions, or something else, may not allow them to let go of others or let go of what once was.
I know for a man, it is about pride, among other things.
For a woman, I guess only a woman can adequately express what causes them to not let go.
I think for both it comes down to denying God, His Way, and pursuing one's own way.
Far too many people fool themselves into thinking they can handle temptation, or can carry on with individuals they once shared intimacy with... thinking their heart won't be led astray to injure themselves or others.
Looking at the world's example of constant depravity and infidelity that is marketed in media, it is no surprise so many people are broken and spiritually inadequate when falling for the banal paths in place of the Way.
Leaving past intimate relationships in the past isn't about not being able to forgive.
One can actually forgive while not resurrecting something now forbidden; denying something that will destroy any current bond that produced two becoming one, or the possibility of such a future bond.
To justify another way in place of God's Way is to doubt God's love and plans for one's life.
Sin is deceptive, tricking one's heart into not forgiving a platonic friend or dear relative, while also tricking one's heart into pursuing a past flame that will surely burn down all the good that has been built since that unhealthy relationship was ended.
Compassion, consideration, love and forgiveness are the fruits of weathering the droughts, floods, storms and removing the thorns from your life... thorns that prevent you from growing.
There is a reason times come and go, and there is a purpose behind the letting go of a past 'time' when the calling from Above is obedience and not waywardness.